People Pleaser is my #1 Saboteur
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝘆 #𝟭 𝘀𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗲𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗮𝘀, 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗮𝗹.
The results read…”people pleaser”
Ugh. I literally wanted to slam my laptop shut and say “F that”.
Until I realized it was so dang accurate.
I had been living my life for others. Trying to make sure I was doing everything to get everyone else’s approval. Trying to be accepted. Trying to get attention and love by doing and being someone that wasn’t my true self.
It was awhile after that assessment that I started asking myself,
“How can I be my true authentic self?”
“Who am I really?”
“If I take all of these masks I have been wearing off, who remains?”
Asking myself those questions was so damn hard.
I wanted to run and hide.
I also wanted to cry because I didn’t even know who I was.
But instead of crying I got really mad.
I started saying “F that” but I took it to an extreme.
It was hard to find the balance.
The balance of acceptance of what this “people pleasing” meant and the “screw that I’m done”.
I became mad, resentful, angry especially because I knew the relationships I was trying to please the most. I wasn’t being nice.
Fast forward a good solid year and I had a big realization.
This authentic person that I was trying to be by saying no was actually not my true authentic self either.
It was a bitter filled part that was screaming to be set free.
I needed and wanted so badly to be myself.
To strip down the layers. Be seen for who I truly am and it wasn’t this angry person. It also wasn’t a person that was going to worry about everyone else’s thoughts and opinions.
Constant battle.
Give. Take. Happy. Sad. Angry. Frustrated…
The more I looked within and had conversations with myself, I started to be able to answer those questions of why? Who am I? Who do I desire to be?
I stopped giving away my power.
I started figuring out who I am at my core.
Was it super comfortable and easy? No
Do I still have to work every day? Yes
Is it going to be a part of my journey as I move forward? Yes
𝗜𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗜’𝘃𝗲 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝘆 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗮𝗱𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗲𝗱.
It’s now become part of my mission and purpose to help you unravel your people pleasing patterns or maybe even the trauma that created it.
In choosing to do this, it’s helped me to embody the Empowered Woman that I know I am. And in a much more meaningful, compassionate, loving way.
It’s not only helped me but I know it’s had a much more positive impact on those I love.
Are you ready to do the work?
Join me in the Empowered Woman workshop to reveal how you may be giving your power away and gather action steps to reclaim it.
This powerful workshop will take place in person on February 7 at 6 pm. (Registration closes February 5)
Link below for more info and to register!
