People Pleaser is my #1 Saboteur
When I found out what my number 1 saboteur was, I wasn’t too thrilled.
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝘆 #𝟭 𝘀𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘁𝗲𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗮𝘀, 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗮𝗹.
The results read…”people pleaser”
Ugh. I literally wanted to slam my laptop shut and say “F that”.
Until I realized it was so dang accurate.
I had been living my life for others. Trying to make sure I was doing everything to get everyone else’s approval. Trying to be accepted. Trying to get attention and love by doing and being someone that wasn’t my true self.
It was awhile after that assessment that I started asking myself,
“How can I be my true authentic self?”
“Who am I really?”
“If I take all of these masks I have been wearing off, who remains?”
Asking myself those questions was so damn hard.
I wanted to run and hide.
I also wanted to cry because I didn’t even know who I was.
But instead of crying I got really mad.
I started saying “F that” but I took it to an extreme.
It was hard to find the balance.
The balance of acceptance of what this “people pleasing” meant and the “screw that I’m done”.
I became mad, resentful, angry especially because I knew the relationships I was trying to please the most. I wasn’t being nice.
Fast forward a good solid year and I had a big realization.
This authentic person that I was trying to be by saying no was actually not my true authentic self either.
It was a bitter filled part that was screaming to be set free.
I needed and wanted so badly to be myself.
To strip down the layers. Be seen for who I truly am and it wasn’t this angry person. It also wasn’t a person that was going to worry about everyone else’s thoughts and opinions.
Constant battle.
Give. Take. Happy. Sad. Angry. Frustrated…
The more I looked within and had conversations with myself, I started to be able to answer those questions of why? Who am I? Who do I desire to be?
I stopped giving away my power.
I started figuring out who I am at my core.
Was it super comfortable and easy? No
Do I still have to work every day? Yes
Is it going to be a part of my journey as I move forward? Yes
𝗜𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗜’𝘃𝗲 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝘆 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗮𝗱𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗲𝗱.
It’s now become part of my mission and purpose to help you unravel your people pleasing patterns or maybe even the trauma that created it.
In choosing to do this, it’s helped me to embody the Empowered Woman that I know I am. And in a much more meaningful, compassionate, loving way.
It’s not only helped me but I know it’s had a much more positive impact on those I love.
Are you ready to do the work?
Join me in the Empowered Woman workshop to reveal how you may be giving your power away and gather action steps to reclaim it.
This powerful workshop will take place in person on February 7 at 6 pm. (Registration closes February 5)
Link below for more info and to register!
What I learned from my intuition in 2022
It’s the final day of 2022!!
Holy cannoli!
I wanted to share some of the things that intuition as taught me in 2022:
•When you get visuals during meditation, even if they don’t make sense of the time, go for it.
•If you do, choose to go for it, and it doesn’t turn out the way that you thought, have grace with yourself. There was a lesson that was needed to have.
•The more you spend time quiet in the mind and listening, the more you will receive.
• Intuition is pure love.
•Open your heart, open your mind, and open yourself to possibilities, they are endless.
•The universe is always conspiring with you, not against you.
•It takes a lot of courage to show up for yourself every single day. Your intuition will guide you.
•Pay attention to the signs, the symbols, the synchronicity’s, this is the guidance from your higher self.
•Every person that you meet, serves a purpose in your life.
•The conversations you have with people are not random. Listen closely to what they say. Intuition guides you to hear and connect with others in certain ways.
I want to thank each of you for blessing me in some way this past year!
As a show of appreciation, I have a gift for you!
Enjoy this guided meditation to reflect on 2022 and welcome in the new year!
HAPPY NEW YEAR 🎊🎆
When did it all start?
How did it all start?
Let me share my story with you!
Many people ask me if I have always had this intuitive gift.
For me, it hasn’t always been something I’ve been aware of.
I was always curious and fascinated when people talked about encounters with Spirits and getting intuitive nudges but for me I didn’t think it was possible.
Curious? Absolutely!
Thought it was possible? Eh, maybe.
Knew how to receive and trust it? Nope, not at all.
One of the first intuitive experiences I recall was during an energy healing session.
I was lying on the table with my eyes closed & I could “see” and sense colors and energy moving above my body. I was so curious what was happening but didn’t want to open my eyes in fear that everything would disappear.
I was going deeper and deeper into a meditative state. I wanted to know what Spirits were around me so internally I kept asking, “please come closer into my vision.”
It was moments later the practitioner started asking me about a loved one who had recently passed, a friend from high school. She interpreted all of the information that was coming through to her.
I felt his presence so deeply. She asked me to think of a symbol so that when it appeared I would think of him. I wasn’t sure but a rainbow came in. We finished the session and I was on my way for the day. A few blocks later (on a perfectly clear summer day) I looked in the sky to see a rainbow.
I was in awe.
I wanted more of those types of experiences. I’d always wished and hoped to have the ability to be intuitive, connect with loved ones, and receive and deliver messages.
It was that day I knew I had a gift and was ready to share it with the world.
I took class after class, worked with many mentors and teachers, and did all of the practice that I could.
And now my gift is to help YOU remember your gift.
We all are intuitive. We can all connect and communicate with those in Spirit and I am eager to help you get started.
Know what you desire! And go for it!
Do you know what you desire?
Its time that you know what it is that you want and be bold to ask for it!
𝗞𝗻𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝘀𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀…𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄…𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗮𝘀 𝗳*𝗰𝗸!
When I ask my clients
“What do you desire in life?”
Most women respond with…
“Good question, I have no idea.”
Who actually does know what they desire? And if you do, are you taking action?
What if we don’t even know what we want??
If that’s the case you are most likely experiencing; burnout, stress, overwhelm, confusion, frustration, undervalued, unsupported and on and on the list goes.
In my coaching practice, I help women start to know what it is that they want.
To understand that it’s OKAY to have desires.
To feel supported to take action that feels aligned to your wants and desires.
Actionable steps to achieve those desires
The results?? Confidence, courage, joy, love, happiness, success, bravery, delighted.
Let me give you an example of something that’s happened for myself recently.
My desire: to have my husband plan a date night for the two of us.
The old me would have never said anything to him about planning a date night.
Without him knowing about this desire of mine, I would just sit around waiting for him to read my mind. Which would lead to disappointment, sadness, frustration—because he wouldn’t know I had this desire.
Could I have planned a date night myself? Sure. But not the same thing. (There is something so desirable when the guy takes action to plan a special evening out, am I right?)
The new me said, “just let him know what you desire and he can figure out the rest.”
I detached myself from the outcome and let it unfold.
The result? A beautiful date night out. He chose a restaurant (without telling me) that he knew I would LOVE. And I did. It was to a T something I truly enjoyed.
I wasn’t afraid to speak up and share this desire of mine with him. I surrendered the control of needing to know where we were going, what we were doing and just let it unfold.
So here is my question and something I want you to reflect on:
•What do you desire and deeply want?
•Are you asking for this desire to unfold (which is an action step) or just waiting for it to magically appear? Which can result in a shit ton of disappointment.
•Are you being clear or wishy washy?
•Are you trying to control how your desire unfolds? (Again this may cause disappointment)
If these questions are causing angst and you don’t know where to begin, then jump right into my 6-week program, Rise Into You.
Knowing you desire more is HUGE…taking action and signing up for my program…now we are talking
With this program you will know your desires, have actionable steps you can take to achieve those desires and do it all with confidence!
Being an Alchemist
One of my superpowers is that I am an alchemist….I turn trash into treasure.
🗑➡️✨
You’re probably thinking, “wait, what? How can SHE turn trash into treasure?”
Well maybe not literal and physical trash, but emotional & mental trash into treasure.
The most recent occurrence of this was when I found myself crying my eyes out, feeling hopeless, frustrated and truly wanting to quit it all. I told my coach, “I just don’t think I am cut out for this, I jut want to quit.” I think I probably shocked the heck out of her because this was coming out of left field.
The trash part was the complete emotional meltdown, the thoughts that were telling me that I would be better off throwing in the towel, and the frustration that was overwhelming every ounce of me.
The thing that was said to me was, “then quit!”
I was like…seriously? Like what the f! I don’t really want to!
After a long talk back and forth what was offered to me was to do a few things:
Go within and see what I truly wanted and desired in my life. {A successful coaching business that was filled with ease, flow, massive abundance, and soul mate clients}
What did I really really see for myself? {To be a guiding light for myself, for my family, for my clients}
Use my powers to transform this “trash” into treasure. {I literally do this way more than I ever realized}
And that is what I did!
The treasure appeared over the next 48 hours:
I doubled my income
🤍I had new clients come out of the wood work
🤍I felt super confident at my networking meetings
🤍I had conversations with new people, people brought to my awareness what they were looking for
🤍AND I decided to finally take the plunge and offer my program I had been working on for 4 months
Your personal trash may be:
🗑Lack of confidence to go all in in your business
🗑Lack of clarity of what your next step is within your relationship or job
🗑Self-doubt when it comes to starting a new weight loss journey
🗑Lack of a deeper intimate relationship with your spouse
🗑Feeling the need to control every outcome in every situation that arises
These things can bring you into a never ending spiral of “trash” and I get it….you jut want to quit.
Let’s turn that “trash” into treasure and watch the abundance blossom! ⭐️
My invitation to you is to join me in this 6 week coaching program *Rise Into You*
where I will show you how you can turn your trash into treasure! Because believe me, we all have a little bit of trash in our lives that’s just waiting for us to clear up-kick it to the curb baby!